Mind and feelings can have conflicts, if conflicts continue longer than our adaptation's possibilities - diseases develop.
There are seven main feelings :
- sadness, - with them we were born.
From 1,5 untill 3 years - shame develops.
From 3 untill 7 - envy and guilt develop.
The best way to solve conflict in a relationship - to name own feelings toward other side. The energy of conflict converts to harmony of compromise.
The most important thing, and then you can not read, and conversely, all that is written on, is intended to convey only one idea - that the naming of our feelings stabilizes the system and helps to build relationships, to find a solution, is the most effective instrument to achieve the goal , all the therapies eventually only use this tool, but in different forms. So go ahead, get to know your feelings and name it, name it, and be happy.